New Beginnings Come in All Shapes and Sizes
April brings joy and celebration, memories and new beginnings.
April is the first full month of spring and here in the South trees are blooming, others have dropped their flowers and new leaves are appearing. In gardens and in the most unexpected places tulips and daffodils are making the once barren grown beautiful and colorful. April celebrates new birth and new beginnings.
For me it starts with the memory of my youngest brother’s birthday. I still remember that day, going to school excited to share the news with everyone and no one believed me – it was April 1st, April Fool’s Day. I lit a candle to celebrate his birth and to honor his soul. This year on this day, my cousin lost her second son. I lit a candle for him so his soul could find his way home.
April is my cousin’s and friend’s birthday and both are women I am so honored to have in my life. It was also my parent’s wedding anniversary and each year it brings back wonderful memories of growing up and being part of a family.
I lost my mother, other family members and friends in April. I miss them all but each gave me so much and helped me become the person I am today and for that I am grateful and celebrate their lives.
With each loss there is an ending of what once was, of what we thought our future would be and that can be painful. It also marks a new beginning because things have changed and we can’t go back. New beginnings are wonderful and scary, they are exhilarating and exhausting. They come in all shapes and sizes – death, divorce, pregnancy, birth, a new job or house, and the list goes on.
Some losses make you feel like you are being swallowed up and there is no way out. That’s OK, its natural but have hope, look for the simple things like a new flower in your garden or that new puppy in your neighborhood. Remember to smile and breath and know you will be alright.
Honor your losses for the people they were, for the lessons learned, for the entire experience. Don’t dwell on the day of the loss and the pain of that day. Honor and celebrate the new beginning you have been offered by lighting a candle, planting a tree, being with friends and family – smile, laugh, remember the old and move into today as the whole and beautiful person you truly are. I know you can do it.